Family & Couples Therapy in Santa Fe, NM

At Lani Solutions LLC, I provide compassionate and effective family and couples therapy in Santa Fe, NM to those who are seeking to improve their relationships and overall emotional well-being. My practice is one that offers a safe and supportive environment to explore challenges, enhance communication, and build stronger connections. So whether you’re navigating relationship struggles, family conflicts, or personal growth, you have a family counselor always here to guide you toward sustainable and positive change.

Couples Counseling

Building Stronger Relationships with Evidence-Based Therapy

Relationships require ongoing care and attention to thrive. Over time, unresolved conflicts, external pressures, and poor communication can create emotional distance and frustration between partners. However, these patterns do not have to define your relationship. Through my couples counseling services, I help partners:

  • Strengthen emotional connection and trust
  • Develop effective conflict-resolution skills
  • Foster deeper understanding and empathy
  • Rekindle intimacy and friendship

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Therapeutic Approaches

The Gottman Method

Research-Based Relationship Strategies

The Gottman Method, developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman (learn more at The Gottman Institute), is founded on over four decades of scientific research. This approach provides couples with evidence-based techniques to improve communication, resolve conflicts, and deepen emotional connections.

Core Principles of the Gottman Method

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The Sound Relationship House Theory

This framework focuses on seven fundamental principles:

  • Building Love Maps: Deeply understanding your partner’s inner world
  • Sharing Fondness and Admiration: Consistently expressing appreciation
  • Turning Toward Instead of Away: Prioritizing connection in daily interactions
  • The Positive Perspective: Approaching conflicts with optimism
  • Managing Conflict: Communicating and resolving disagreements effectively
  • Making Life Dreams Come True: Supporting each other’s aspirations
  • Creating Shared Meaning: Building a life reflecting shared values

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The PACT Method

A Comprehensive Relationship Approach

The PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy) Method is a groundbreaking therapeutic framework that integrates multiple disciplines to understand and improve relationship dynamics.

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Key Components of PACT

Neuroscience Integration

PACT explores how brain functioning influences relationship patterns. By understanding neurological responses, couples can develop more compassionate and effective communication strategies.

Attachment Theory

PACT examines individual attachment styles—secure, anxious, or avoidant—and how these deeply rooted patterns impact relationship interactions. I help partners recognize and transform potentially harmful attachment-driven behaviors.

Physiological Awareness

Unlike traditional therapies, PACT emphasizes understanding physiological responses during conflict. By recognizing stress reactions, heart rates, and bodily signals, couples can develop more regulated and empathetic interactions.

Moment-to-Moment Interaction

PACT focuses on real-time relationship dynamics, observing subtle communication cues, facial expressions, and emotional shifts during therapy sessions.

Secure Functioning

The ultimate goal is developing a “secure functioning” relationship where both partners prioritize mutual protection, maintain transparent communication, and create a collaborative partnership.

Family Therapy

Creating Healthy Family Dynamics

Families often face complex challenges requiring professional guidance. My family therapy sessions focus on enhancing communication, resolving conflicts, and fostering unity. I help families navigate:

  • Parent-child relationships
  • Blended family dynamics
  • Major life transitions
  • Sibling conflicts
  • Intergenerational communication

Through positive communication techniques and narrative therapy, I empower family members to express their emotions, establish healthy boundaries, and create lasting change.

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Communication Strategies

Key techniques I teach include:

Soft Startups

Approaching difficult topics gently

Active Listening & Validation

Truly hearing and reflecting on partners’ emotions

Repair Attempts

Using gestures to de-escalate conflicts

Emotional Attunements

Understanding and navigating complex emotional landscapes

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if therapy is right for me?

If you’re experiencing recurring conflicts, emotional distance, or communication challenges, therapy can provide valuable tools for relationship growth. You can consider traditional or ketamine-assisted therapy at our Santa Fe, NM practice.

What should I expect from the first session?

I’ll discuss your relationship history, current challenges, and therapy goals while introducing key therapeutic concepts.

How long does therapy typically last?

Duration varies based on individual needs: some benefit from 5-10 sessions, while others prefer longer-term support.

Do you offer virtual therapy sessions?

Yes, I provide both in-person and virtual therapy options. I am also available for federal contract treatment services for Native American clients.

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I believe that each and every relationship has potential for growth and transformation. And that means that whether you’re seeking couples counseling, family therapy, or relationship support, I’m here to guide you toward both stronger connections and lasting happiness.

So are you ready to begin your transformative journey? Then please reach out today for personalized support and expert guidance.

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